How to help your good intentions evolve into real goals by Paul Kida

January 13, 2009 by Paul Kida

How to help your good intentions evolve into real goalsAh, yes, my fellow DJs, it is that time again…a new year begins. With it, we all (or most of us) get caught up in the annual tradition of making New Year’s resolutions. Isn’t it a great idea to start the brand new year off with a fresh outlook, changing our lives for the better?

Or is it? The main problem with it is that most of us end up failing miserably at keeping these resolutions! We all tend to sink back into our old, non-productive patterns, which makes us feel depressed because once again, we have not lived up to what is expected of us, this time by ourselves. Well, stop it right now!

OK, if you really want to change old habits and feel that you must keep up the tradition of having New Year’s resolutions, fear not; you can have your resolutions, but this year be assured that you will succeed in keeping them!

Action Word

Let’s first examine the word “resolution.” According to the dictionary, it means: a determined intention; solving of a problem; and in the case of vision, it means clarity and sharpness. Coming from the base word “resolute” it also has the connotation of being purposeful, decided and firm. Just meditate for a moment on these descriptive words. Let their meaning sink in. Can resolutions really be helpful? Absolutely! But that is only the beginning of a successful journey. Good intentions, even determined intentions, are only as good as the action that follows.

If you take a close look at the word resolution, you will find the base word of “solution.” The definition of solution is the act of solving a problem. Here is our next step to overcoming failure in keeping our New Year’s resolutions. We need to take positive action, not merely daydream or say we will do something. We need to look for actual solutions to our problems, following through with the works that will lead to a definite result.

The Write Stuff

How do we go about taking that positive action? What is it that will help us in finding success that we so desire? It is the simple act of setting goals in writing. That means writing down in detail what it is we wish to accomplish. Then write down in detail the actions or steps that would be necessary in order to get them done. This makes these goals real and alive to us. Following this method will turn your resolutions into something much more than just the annual fad. It will become the starting point for real, positive change. Now let’s see how we can do this without overwhelming ourselves in the process.

First of all, don’t go crazy in making more resolutions than you can keep. Keep it simple! You might want to start be looking at the three most important aspects of your life. Those would be, first of all, personal/family; secondly, business aspects; and finally, your actual job performance as a mobile entertainer.

Write down your resolutions under each category, limiting it to five or six per category. Next, you want to narrow that down to the three most important per category, leaving you with a total of nine New Year’s resolutions. Even that seems like a lot, so let’s narrow it down even further by choosing the most important resolution for each category.

You now have one personal resolution (maybe losing weight, working on some relationship, etc.), one business resolution (perhaps making more appointments, following up on more leads, etc.) and one job performance resolution (maybe improving your MC capabilities, etc.).

Step by Step

It is time to move on to the second stage of solutions. Exactly what will it take to get these resolutions fulfilled? Are they reasonable? Take the time to examine each one and find the most effective way for you to get it done.

Let’s look at the sample resolutions that are stated above. Number one is “lose weight.” What will that take? Some logical solutions would be to eat healthier, no fast food, make better choices. Or will it take joining a weight loss group? Will you have the time to make it to the meetings? You know your schedule and what is logical for you personally.

The second example is “make more appointments.” What will that take? Most likely, calling more leads. Will it also mean signing up on the Internet on some of the many bridal sites so that you can have more exposure as well as leads coming in? Or will you need to perhaps make appointments with other vendors and actually visit reception sites to make your name further known? How about joining a vendor group and getting leads through them? Each area of the country is different, so it might take some thinking on your part as to what will work the best for you and your business.

The third sample resolution is to improve on your MC capabilities. First, you could rehearse out loud, record your own voice and see how you could improve. Even better, you could take a class on speaking. (One of the great ones is Mark Ferrell’s MC Workshop.)

These are just some ideas; you know what areas you need to work on in each category. The trick is to not set the resolutions or goals so high that it is impossible to make them. Don’t set yourself up for failure. Start small and work up gradually to greater and greater success. One of the most important things is to always keep the solutions in a positive mode. Instead of saying, “I won’t eat junk food,” say to yourself, “I love to eat healthy food.” Instead of saying, “I won’t waste time,” say to yourself, “I am using my time wisely and I am more productive!” Instead of saying, “I won’t be nervous as I announce tonight” say, “I am confident and have an excellent speaking voice!” These positive mental adjustments will go a long way in improving your attitude and strengthening your resolve. In this way, you have gone way beyond making a resolution. By writing everything down, you have made them real and tangible. They are becoming real goals with specific results in mind.

Success: Off the Charts!

The final step is to fine-tune your goals. Write down a schedule for each of the three categories. Be specific in how you will implement your solutions for each one. An example for your first goal of losing weight may be to get more exercise. But don’t just write down “get more exercise!” You must be specific, such as, “On Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 7:00 AM I will work out to Sweatin’ with the Oldies (well, maybe something other than that-you get what I mean. It must be specific with days, times, etc. Also, have a chart so that you can keep track of your progress and all of the actions that you have taken to reach whatever goal it is that choose. (If you find this difficult or are unsure of how to chart your progress, feel free to contact me any time at the email listed below. I am always glad to be of assistance to all of my fellow DJs.)

If you choose to make New Year’s resolutions, they can actually be very productive if you follow these steps to success. Just make each resolution the first step of a process, find your solutions to each one, don’t make them so high that they are impossible to fulfill, and then follow through each day. The success that you will achieve will make it well worth the effort.

Please send any comments on this article, suggestions for future articles or questions to djcoach@mobilebeat.com.

Paul Kida, The DJ Coach, is a founding member of the Colorado Disc Jockey Association. He owns JAMMCATTS DJ Entertainment (www. jammcattsdj.com) and is often a speaker at the Mobile Beat DJ Shows.

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