DJ Tips In Under A Minute: DO NOT Play means DO NOT PLAY

August 6, 2016 by Jay Brannan

Hey, this is DJ tip may go over a minute. It concerns do not play songs at weddings and this is an actual wedding I just did back in June or this month. And on their do not play list, they had a few songs. When I get to an event and a bride and groom have given me a do not play list, that’s exactly what happens, I do not play them. I don’t play them if a cute girl comes up, I don’t play them if a relative comes up, I don’t play them if people come up with money. I don’t really care why somebody else wants to hear it and I don’t really care why the bride and groom don’t. I just know that the bride and groom have entrusted me with their music for the evening and they’ve specifically said, we don’t want to hear something. It could make them sad, it could make them mad. That isn’t at issue. What’s at issue is sending people to the bride and groom to bother them. If bride and groom tell you, I don’t want to hear a certain song, don’t tell someone requesting it that, because they’re just going to go bother the bride and groom.

What I’ve always done is say, I don’t have it. Well, you have a laptop and a phone and an iPad, can you download it? No. I don’t have the right cables, whatever it takes. But I immediately suggest another song that I’d be happy to play for the person requesting it. For all I know, this could make them super sad and I’m not going to make my bride and groom sad at their wedding. So if you have a do not play list from the bride and groom, that’s exactly what it is, it’s a do not play list. It isn’t a your friend wanted to hear it and she said she’s really good friends with you, don’t go for that. If someone says don’t play something at a wedding and they’re your client and they’re trusting you, don’t break that trust by playing it. This is sort of a tip/opinion, but I think you’ll never lose if you do what you get paid to do, in well over a minute.


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The passion for music in Jay’s life began before all else. “I don’t remember a time that there wasn’t music around me, or a moment that a song wasn’t playing”, it’s this love affair with music that ultimately brought Jay to his career as a DJ. As a husband and father of two boys, Jay has been a professional DJ for 21 years. Whether in clubs, on boats, at weddings, or in other lands; the passion has never waivered and the love of song only grown stronger. Mobile events are at the heart of Jay’s company, Brannan Entertainment, serving Southern California and beyond. He has spent the last 23 years in the San Diego, CA area now living in Temecula, CA, and life started for him in Boston MA. Boston was the place that taught Jay music was the most powerful form of sound. Working for WBCN FM104.1 in the 80’s, Jay was able to sample the life that would ultimately become his career. The California years have been spent working in clubs, 7 years as the Director of Entertainment for a yacht company, and starting and running his own award winning mobile DJ business. Since 2003, Jay has been a moderator, demonstrator, and product specialist for Pioneer DJ and spends between 5-8 weeks a year travelling for Pioneer. After a long talk with fellow DJ and close friend, Brian S Redd, at the Mobile Beat Las Vegas 2013 show, Jay decided to go after YouTube with his own channel. Helping DJs with his DJ Tips in under a minute, Jay has brought answers to often held questions in the DJ world. “If you give someone help, it will always come back to you”. The good karma practice has served Jay well with almost 2,000,000 views and over 2600 subscribers. “When Ryan Burger asked me about writing a blog, I realized this was another great way to help DJs with what I have gone through and seen”. “The chance to give back to a community that has always supported me is something that I am very excited about”. Gear and work and knowledge all meet up with DJs and their experience, Jay brings a unique perspective with his years of work and having attended over 100 DJ trade shows. The questions are welcome and the answers are free, along with the hopes that the mobile DJ world only gets better at what it does by the support of those like Jay.

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